Archive for December, 2013

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for my blog.  I thought you would enjoy seeing it.  After looking through their findings I would love to know what you would like to see more of in 2014.  May God bless all of you with health, contentment, joy, and peace as you look forward to the adventure of 2014.

On the Journey with all of You!


Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 3,200 times in 2013. If it were a cable car, it would take about 53 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.


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should have

My good friend and pastor Doug Bullock once said, “You gotta kick the “shouldof” out of should have!”  Living under the burden of “should have” sucks the life from you.  I should have shopped earlier.  I should have invited my neighbors over for a Christmas party.  I should have baked cookies.  I should have sent Christmas cards.  I should have started wrapping presents earlier.   The “shouldof” list grabs a hold of your heart and it squeezes until it it hard to breath.

Have you discovered that the should have list grows exponentially every day it gets closer to Christmas.  Sadly the longer your “shouldof” list is the more you feel depressed, overwhelmed, and robbed of joy.  The only solution I know to resolve this horrible burden is to Kick the “shouldof” out of Should Have!  Who says you have to bake cookies?  Buy them!  Who says you need to wrap your presents?  Put them in a bag and stuff tissue paper on top of them!  Who says you have to send Christmas cards?  They are only going to be thrown into a basket and then then tossed into the recycle bin!   To often we create or build these unrealistic goals and expectations that are impossible to accomplish.  No wonder you go to bed exhausted and overwhelmed.  As a parent of a special needs child you plate is already overflowing.

Maybe this year you can evaluate the traditions that are creating stress in your life.  This may be the year to let go of the unrealistic goal of perfection and to make plans for traditions that are both realistic and enjoyable. Follow the KISS princile: “Keep it Simple Silly”.

What’s on your “shouldof” list?  Be bold and share it.  Maybe we can help you find some creative ways to kick the “shouldof” out of your should have list and allow you to de-stress this holiday season!

Merry Christmas


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In just a few weeks we will be  opening the doors for 2014!  It is going to be a very exciting year.  Our goals are:

  1. To double the number of families served
  2. To identify, train, and release 10 couples as hosts
  3. To create a long range business plan that will enable us to reach more families
  4. To hire an Executive Director that can carry out our dreams

You may be asking, “Why such aggressive goals?  Wouldn’t it be easier to just keep doing what you are doing and keep it simple?  The answer is yes it would be easier, but what about the Elroy and Lizette’s of the world?

elroy adn lizetteThis past summer David’s Refuge had the privilege of caring for Elroy and Lizette who gave us permission to share their story.  Elroy and Lizette’s dream was to have a family.  After two years of trying they finally got pregnant through In Vitro Fertilization.  On February 14th, 2006 Fajo was born.  To say they were excited is putting it mildly.   After a careful search they found a certified day care provider to watch their child.  Three months later Lizette received a phone call from the day care center saying that Fajo had stopped breathing.  It was later discovered that Fajo was shaken by a care provider and is now a survivor of Shaken Baby Syndrome.  Fajo is totally disabled due to massive and traumatic brain injuries.  In one horrifying and life-changing event Elroy and Lizette became full time caregivers of a child with special needs.  The weekend they spent at David’s Refuge gave them time to retool, rethink, and put life into perspective, enabling them to better care for Fajo.

More than ever we are convinced of the need to grow and expand out mission:

To provide a place of respite free of charge for parents and guardians of children with special needs or life threatening medical conditions where they will be refreshed, restored, and renewed in their role as caregivers.

I would love to have you join David’s Refuge in accomplishing these goals.  As 2013 comes to an end, would you please consider financially supporting David’s Refuge?   There are countless families like Elroy and Lizette who need to be reminded they are not alone, that what they do matters, and that God loves them.   If you are interested you can go online at: http://www.davidsrefuge.org/donate.

If you have any questions or would like to talk please send me a message with your phone number and I will give you a phone call.

Thank you for taking the time to consider supporting our mission of Caring for the Caregiver.

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giving tuesdayToday is #GivingTuesday.   One website I looked at said that it is:

a movement to create a national day of giving to kick off the giving season added to the calendar on the Tuesday following Thanksgiving, Black Friday and Cyber Monday. The second annual GivingTuesday is on December 3, 2013. In the same way that retail stores take part in Black Friday, we want the giving community to come together for #GivingTuesday.

If you want to know more about #GivingTuesday check out this YouTube video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBT2cONeiHw

Now some of you are probably expecting me to ask you to support David’s Refuge on this #GivingTuesday.  But I am not.  I am actually asking you to stop and remember and maybe even celebrate the Moms and Dads we serve at David’s Refuge.  For you see everyday is a day of #giving for these parent.

Everyday they wake up they care for their children.  They feed them, bathe them, wipe them, play with them, hold them, serve them, and carry them.  They #give them medication, take them to doctor appointments,  sit through hours of therapy, and constantly look out for their every need.  For hours they sit by their sides in the hospital.  They pray, they cry, and they feel alone.  Today I am asking you to celebrate and encourage these incredible heroes as they #give and #give of themselves.

Here are a seven ideas of how you could celebrate or encourage the parent of a child with special needs.

#GivingMonday: Ask if there is any holiday shopping you could do for them.

#GivingTuesday: Offer to watch their children so they can take a nap, go for a walk, or get away for a weekend at David’s Refuge! 🙂

#GivingWednesday: Become a buddy for a child with special needs (phone calls, playing together, 1:1 times)

#GivingThusday: Don’t forget about the siblings of the special needs child.  They’ll need some extra TLC, too.

#GivingFriday: Take time to ask and then listen to their story.  You will be amazed!

#GivingSaturday: Help your friends keep their sense of humor. A good laugh with a friend can turn around a stressful day.

#GivingSunday: Make a commitment to pray for them.  Pray for their marriage, their family, and their endurance.

Today you can bring hope to these #giving heroes.   Give it a try!  I dare you.


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